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Saturday, August 20, 2011

Baby Steps...For Mommy

The past two weeks or so have been tough ones in the Tanner house, for MANY reasons, none of which I am going to go into on this post. Tonight is all about digesting today. While what Matt and I probably needed was a calm, relaxing day at home, we decided to venture out for a family outing. Although I am SO tired, I decided to make tonight's posting a priority to take it all in.


Our outing today took us to Tuscaloosa. The first stop was the alpha chi omega house for Alabama's bid day. One of the girls I taught several years ago pledged alpha chi and I could not wait to go down and see her in scarlet and green and the letters axo on her jersey! Shea is so special to me and I have waited for quite a while to be able to see her pledge, knowing alpha chi would be the perfect fit for her! Being at the house brought back so many memories of bid day for me (over a decade ago - yikes!) and the friends I made on my college journey. Talking with Shea this week as she went through rush almost made me feel like I was back in college again and it has certainly made the week special!



Our next stop in Tuscaloosa was at Pam's house - the woman who would be the new mommy for my 2 turtles, Shelly and Shelldon. Shelly and Shelldon have been with me for so long, but I knew this day would come. Matt and I agreed when we found out we were expecting Aiden that we could no longer care for the turtles the way they needed to be cared for, didn't have the room for them anymore now that they are getting much larger, and could not run the risk of them getting Aiden sick. (Although it is rare, turtles can carry salmonella and can be more dangerous to kids, who touch the turtles and then put their hands in their mouths. Although it is very rare with indoor turtles like ours, Matt and I agreed we could never live with ourselves if something ever happened to Aiden and we knew a potential risk was possible) So in November we began pursuing other arrangements for them. The Birmingham Zoo was not taking animals at the time. The Botanical Gardens were not taking any more turtles for their pond. We felt we were stuck until after winter. In June, after Aiden was born, Matt began actively looking for a new home for them, since his parents had been keeping them through our move. One day on a whim Matt looked on Craig's List and found a woman who was looking to add another turtle to her habitat in the backyard. Matt contacted her and she was interested in taking BOTH of our turtles. Well, of course when Matt brought it up to me, I cried like a baby. I didn't want to give them up! When he giggled at my silly mommy reaction, I was quick to tell him I had had the turtles longer than I had had him! :) Over the next few weeks I looked into options - possibly building a place of their own in the backyard. The only problem was that this would take away from the already small space Aiden will have in the backyard and that it would be a VERY expensive project to make it worth the effort. After exhausting all possibilities, I told Matt it looked like that was our only answer.


We stopped off today at Pam's house, who happens to be a professor at the U of A. She was SO kind and truly has a passion for turtles! (She even showed us her pictures of her recent trip with her husband to Africa - where they went to see and pet other kinds of turtles!) Her backyard was AMAZING! She has turned the entire area into a beautiful garden and habitat for her fish and for her turtles! She already had 2 land turtles in the enclosure, Winnie and Pooh, as well as 3 red ear sliders (same as Shelly and Shelldon) - in the pond, Tori, Baby, and Chicken (who, I think, is really names Fred, but earned the name Chicken because he is so shy). Pam took the time to listen to me tell her all about my 2 - their names, their physical differences, and their personalities. I could tell very quickly she would love them as much as I do. After showing me where they would live, she told me I could even be the one to put them in their new home and said it might help me to see them swim and play with their new friends. Although it was hot, Matt and Aiden let Mommy watch her other 2 babies explore their new home. I thought it would be SO much harder to let them go, but I know deep down that they will be happier where they are now than if they were here with us. The best part? She told us we could come visit them anytime! I told Matt that I feel like we have an open adoption! She encouraged us to come by when we come down for game days. She even talked about Aiden getting to hold them one day when he is older! I told her I would really take her up on it and she encouraged me to! Here are a few pictures of my sweethearts in their new home...







My last picture with my babies! When I got them, they were only the size of a quarter!




Mommy letting them go in their new pond. This one is Shelly - Shelldon went first. He dove in, went straight under the bushes, and stayed there!




Shelly is exploring her new home and loved it! I never would have thought she would be the more adventurous one today and Shelldon would be so shy and timid! It seemed that as I moved around the pool, Shelly would follow. She was eager to see her new place, but seemed to stay closer to me as I moved around the pond!






Shelldon finally came our from under the plant to scope out the new place!






Shelly decided she had enough of swimming and getting to know the others. She decided to climb up the new ramp and catch some rays!






Shelly even gave her mommy one last look before we left. I know she is going to love it there!


Aiden was such a sweet boy and actually slept most of our time outside with the turtles (which made me forget to get a picture of him with the turtles before we let them go!). When we got back in the car and I was on the verge of tears, Aiden woke up and these are the two faces I quickly got. They made it ALL better and reminded me that I was doing what was best for our family...







So we were off for our final "stop" of the day - driving through the tornado damage. Words could not begin to describe what it was like to drive up McFarland through businesses, turn left of 15th Street, and everything was GONE. Even some of the places we ate in college - Taco Casa, Milo's, Krispy Kreme - GONE. As we drove farther, the lake that is shaped like Alabama with a tree on an island where Tuscaloosa is, stood exposed and barren. Everything around it - trees, houses - all GONE. As we drove up Hackberry, everything was fine until the sharp curve to the left. Everything GONE. One house stood tall and undamaged, then several blocks of nothing, then another untouched home. It was easy to see the path of April's tornado. Matt and were reminded of that day and watching the tornado tear through Tuscaloosa and feeling so helpless and afraid. As we watched the tornado rip through Tuscaloosa, I felt like it was ripping out a part of me as well.



After a very emotionally draining day, we stopped at Tut's for a late lunch (15th Street Diner and City Cafe were closed) and let Aiden get out to stretch. We agreed it had been an emotional and tiring day, but a good one.





When we got home, we decided to take Aiden for his first swim. It was a bit cooler from a quick rain and close to sunset, so we thought it would be the perfect time to let him explore the water without other kids splashing. I wasn't sure what to expect. Aiden LOVES bath time, but that is with warm water and a heater. Aiden hates to be cold and the temperature had dropped into the high 70s by this point. However, he was a trooper! He sat in the chair with me and just took in the cool water. From sweating SO much through the day, he probably enjoyed the cool water as much as Matt and I did! I was surprised he didn't kick his feet or play more, but I realized just how tired he was when he fell asleep on our walk back to the house! Here are a few pictures of his first swim, and a perfect end to our family day!


Monday, August 1, 2011

Lessons Learned


As Aiden turns 2 months old today, I have been thinking of all the things I have learned in these quick 2 months:

There is nothing like seeing your child smile. It never gets old and I can't imagine it ever will.

Naps on mommy's chest make everything better - for baby AND for mommy.

The 2 month doctor's visit (complete with shots) is A LOT tougher on mommy than on baby.

Red lights are the enemy and pot holes are now a lifesaver with a baby in the car.

Pain is all relative. You think you know your limits, but somehow a baby changes what you thought you could tolerate.

Thank goodness for digital cameras and free film or we would be broke by now.

External harddrives should be sold in baby stores and available to put on the registry.

You suddenly realize how different things now are when you head to the beach and the baby has more swimsuits than mom and dad - combined.

When packing for baby, think about how much luggage mommy and daddy will have. Now double it.

Where I once grumbled and complained about burping and passing gas in the Tanner house, suddenly it is encouraged and even gets mommy's praise.

Cooking dinner for the family is one of the most helpful things someone can do for a family with a new baby - no matter when it is done or what the meal is.

People love babies. Have a response prepared for when a random stranger walks up and asks to hold your baby. It WILL happen.

Babies bring out the baby voice in everybody - even tough guys like daddy.

People who think MacGyver is resourceful have never been a mommy and had to nurse, heat a bottle, change diapers, and take care of a baby on the go.

Nothing can replace the first few weeks with the baby. This week has convinced me that he knows my face, my smell, and my voice. While it has frustrated his daddy beyond belief, it is an amazing feeling to have your crying son handed to you and he immediately stops crying when he sees my face.

Sleep deprivation can make you say and do some funny things. You've been warned.

Always tell a new mommy she looks amazing, no matter what she looks like - it will make her day. After feeling so skinny for the first two weeks, you suddenly realize you aren't when you wear a swimsuit for the first time and someone asks you at the pool how far along you are.

Buy stock in Energizer and Duracel before the baby comes. ALL baby supplies need batteries these days.

I now have tremendous respect and sympathy for cows.

Whoever said "There is no use crying over spilled milk" clearly was not nursing or pumping.

A baby's nursery needs a fan. It doesn't even need to be a working fan, they just want it to look at.

The key to a successful bathtime is a space heater. Trust me on this one.

When preparing for a baby, think like Noah - 2 of everything. You will need a back-up of everything from crib sheets to pacifiers.

They do make sleeping pills for babies - they're called car seats.

I never thought I would be so relieved and excited to see a VERY dirty diaper.

If you are ever selected to be a contestant on Supermarket Sweep and need training, may I suggest taking a newborn that has just woken from his nap and is 3 hours since his last feeding. You will shave your shopping time in half, I promise.

One word - mylicon.

And most of all, there is nothing that anyone can say or do that can prepare you for a baby. It is an unexpected adventure each day!